As a woman, I wear many different “hats”. I am a wife, mother, daughter, friend, chef, maid, assistant, youth leader, babysitter, occasional landscaper, neighbor, in-law, aunt, business owner, fitness queen, … I feel like I could keep going and going! Oh and not to mention we are supposed to shower and have groomed eyebrows at all times (yeah right). I am sure you can relate if you are reading this.
For a while when I first started working from home, I thought that I had to wear every single hat every single day. That was ludicrous! (I am sure Mr.Ludicrous himself would agree… “YEEEEAH!”)
Now this isn’t going to be another list of “wake up and hour earlier” or “make sure you exercise before all the kids get up” kind of post. That has never worked for me on a consistent basis. But here are a few things that HAVE worked and continue to work for me and my family.
1.Pick no more than 3 extra “hats” per day.
There are roles that we must play every single day in some capacity, such as mom, wife, and business owner. But DO NOT make yourself into a mental case by attempting to wear them all every day! For example, there are about 3 days a week where the “maid hat” is put on the shelf and the boss, mom, wife, youth leader, chef, and assistant hats are worn. If I attempt to wear every single hat in one day, my husband has to pick up the pieces by playing therapist at the end of the day. Not an ideal way to spend the evening.
2. STOP feeling bad about the dishes in the sink or the toys on the floor!
When I chose to be a WAHM (work at home mom) I knew it would be tough. But I had NO idea how hard it would be mentally. I am SO good at making myself feel like I didn’t accomplish anything that day if there are dishes in the sink and the house isn’t picked up. But if that is the case, it usually means I got a lot of work done, spent extra time with my baby, and dinner is made. We can’t do it all and that is better than okay- IT’S PERFECT!
3. Give yourself permission to take a day off from everything.
After a really long hard week, sometimes all you need is a little R&R. Find a babysitter and do whatever it is YOU want to do for a few hours. Take yourself to a movie, go shopping, sleep in your car… The only rule is you CANNOT run errands. This must be selfish time!
This is a non-negotiable for me. If I don’t do this every few weeks, I am a the hot mess express. Taking care of myself is the only way I can take care of my family and business effectively.
4. Listen to some kind of personal development every day.
In a perfect world I would have read all of the amazing books written by Simon Sinek, Tony Robbins, Marie Forleo, and who ever wrote “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”. But who has time to sit down and read a book?! I have discovered listening to books is the only way I can fit this in my life. I listen while I shower and get ready, when I run (the couple of times a week I am able to fit that in), and when I drive. When I get tired of having to stop in the middle of a chapter, I will listen to podcasts or an inspirational TED talk. Just feed your soul and inspire yourself every day!
5. Make sure your priorities are in order.
This takes some real deep digging for me every few weeks because if your were to ask me off the cuff, “Hey there Stefani, are your priorities in order?” I would answer with a resounding, “Yes of course!” But often, my biggest cheerleader and supporter (aka my husband) has to bring me back down to earth and remind me where I truly am and helps me figure out what needs reprioritizing. I can tell my things are out of whack when I start to feel overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, and lacking patience. When you start to feel this way, take a step back and re-prioritize.
And most importantly…
6. There is no such thing as 100% balance in all things.
Early on in this amazing work from home life, I realized that balance in all things 100% of the time is a total myth. I only have so much that I can give on a regular basis and if I am overextending myself day in and day out, I crumble, and it takes me WEEKS to get back up again. Don’t do that to yourself! Find peace with the imperfections and find the good in every day.
Moral of the story… working from home is TOUGH! But it can be done! We just need to keep our feet on the ground, head on straight, and never run faster than we have strength.